"I said that I was part of the cult and everybody drank the Kool-Aid except for me. "Actually, I've just come back from Jonestown," she said, referencing the Jim Jones cult, where 918 people committed mass suicide by drinking cyanide-laced Kool-Aid in 1978. "So there we were, sitting naked in this room with 10 people, and they said, 'Let's go around in a circle and find out who you are, where you've been and why you're here.'"Įveryone spoke, then it was Donna's turn. "Part of the reason I talk so much is I don't want them to come on to me - I'm trying to freak them out," she says.
But being a woman in the presence of men sometimes requires walking (if not trouncing) a fine line.
A passive participant, the observer (or, voyeur) derives pleasure, knowledge, and experience through the act of looking. "I didn't want to be in one, but I wanted to be there," Donna says, a perfect summation of her credo. She and a colleague from New York magazine once made a trip hoping to make their way to the private room where orgies occurred. As with all our destination guides, we recommend getting in touch with locals, who will be clued in to the best places to go play.Larry Levenson, self-proclaimed King of Swing, Plato’s Retreat, NYC 1980ĭonna hoped to find the answer at Plato's. You just need to check Recon for the number of men into fetish in the city, so there's clearly plenty of guys having kinky fun. Mix with thousands of like-minded fetish men and look forward to top cruising guaranteed. Folsom Street East – Held in June in Chelsea, FSE is the largest outdoor celebration of everything leather and fetish on America's east coast.Expect a 5,000 strong crowd gathered to enjoy fetish art and culture, performers and spectacle – dress to impress. The Black Party – The largest kink and fetish party in New York, the Black Party takes place in March or April at a Brooklyn location disclosed only to ticket-holders a few days before the event.Tongue-in-cheek themed nights include puppy auctions, wet underwear contests and fetish nights where anything goes. Rockbar – This West Village bar is home to a manly, leather-loving crowd mingling to a background of live rock music.
Also, located in Chelsea, Paddles is the place to go for all-night spanking parties, bondage nights and bears in abundance, plus the infamous NY Bondage Club every Sunday.
It may have become less obvious since its prime in the 70s but there are still plenty of kinky options to be found in the city that never sleeps, if you know where to look. A bit of background Listen to some and they'd have you believe that the heyday of New York's gay fetish scene has long since been and gone, but this isn't necessarily true. Read on for our recommendations of the best fetish clubs and bars this city's scene has to offer. Next up in our fetish destination series, we take a look at the gay fetish scene in New York.